Hardships Turned Into Blessings

I want everyone to take this title as literal as they come. If you are not taking something good from a horrible situation, you need to keep the hunt going. Letting you all into my personal life is never for pity, its so that others are able to see that I am human and have my lows just like you all do at one point or another. I hope that someone will be able to relate to something I go through someday whether it be good or bad and just better themselves in general.

This was all back in about May to about July of this year. I lost my job, lost my lover, and the worse loss of all my faith in God. Even if it was for only a day, it was lost. This isn't in any way a blog to shove religion down your throat, but Jesus is my savior and he has taken me out of so many deep holes and I am grateful for how merciful and giving he is with me.

Moving along, back in about April I had suddenly been let off from my job. It was very unprofessional, distasteful and in my opinion unfair. If you have been let off from an employer in Florida you know that they do not need a real reason to let you go anyway. I was literally told by someone who is not even legally part of the company "you are great with what you do, I enjoy how you treat my customers, but the gossiping of others led you to lose your job." Correct me if I'm wrong but I do not see how that had anything to do with how I work or how well I treated my customers. But at the end of the day it is all good, relationships were broken but all is forgiven on my side. So at this point I am jobless and soon to be (at the time) moving cross country to move in with my lover. So I am stuck babysitting, giving driving lessons and helping my mother at her beauty salon just to make credit card payments, have gas and save the tiny bit I could for my big move.

Now I am due to leave to Los Angeles for early July so I am trying to scrape up my bit of money and get all my things ready for my big move. So as I get closer to making my big move, my lover at the time begins to get very hostile, disrespectful and distant with me. I decide to call off my trip for obvious reasons. I was in a verbally abusive relationship where I was taken for granted and did not have any emotional support. If you are not being respected in any type of relationship then you do not need to stick around. He was always extremely controlling and I at the time thought it was just his way of showing how much he loved me. When in reality he just wanted me to change everything about me, while also putting me down every chance he got.  I get that trust is always something that is built, but belittling should not be part of that process. I learned that distance never hurts a relationship, lack of trust and respect does. So I called it quits. I opted out of my relationship with a man I thought would someday be my husband, and the father to my children, along with my life long dream of moving to California to expand myself. Nothing is worth you being unhappy all the time. So now I have no job, little to no money and the man that I was in love with is non existent.

At this point I am feeling very weak and overwhelmed with my current events, my future with school. I am 23 and have no idea what I really want in my life. I did not like my career choice, how long I've been in school already, just all of it. I fell in a pool of depression for other internal feelings and family issues. I did not want to talk to my family or friends, having a horrible attitude with everyone and having horrible devil sent thoughts. I found myself questioning my God. I was absolutely believing that all the things that were going on with me were to break me down. I had an ending of the whole depression ordeal and just got up and allowed the devil up off of me and let my God in instead. I allowed positive motivation and God to give me the strength to get up from my dungeon of a room and get better mentally, physically, and emotionally. The blessing in it all was that is just had to be DONE! I needed to be broken down so that I would be able to build back up stronger and more focused than ever.

I began to reevaluate my career choice, my job choices and my loved ones around me. I started to research things that I was able to do long term that would bring me happiness and money all in one. That is when I stumbled upon a career in communications, which has many different fields I would be able to join in. I made up my mind to make this website to network and to express myself all while helping others too. I started a part time job with an amazing company that works with my school schedule and taking time off for trips too to allow me to blog on. I got closer than ever to God and begged for forgiveness, guidance and overall love. I needed love from him, the universe and my family whom I had been neglecting because of my own demons trying to ruin me.

I am now so grateful for every single downfall I went through because I got up, got better and got stronger. You can't blame yourself for the downfalls, you can only blame yourself if you choose to stay down. Petty parties should never be accepted, you grieve for a while and then go back to wearing bright colors with a smile on your beautiful soul and face. Always look for what healthy outlets you can find to become a better you. We will always go through ugly points in our lives, some uglier than others but we have to be able to find loop holes to get back on top of the world. No one in the world can help you get better and ahead than yourself. Hardships really do turn into blessings, some in a day, or a few months or even years. Just know that it does not rain forever, your sunshine will always come out. Make sure to always believe in something and hold on to positive energy all around.

Remember more than anything to "Love and allow to be loved." xoxo

Tree Trek Adventure

Climb up the ladder, nice and smooth. Enjoy the view when you step to the top. *Click, Click* carabiners are locked in and you are secure. Now step forward onto the ledge... keep it steady, one foot at a time, use those arms to find some balance. Woo that was close, almost went down. I will tell you all about an awesome day filled with a nice green surrounding, loads of fun, laughter and sporty adventure at Tree Trek.

Let us begin from the beginning, I heard about this place from one of my great friends Laura, she did pay full price for the place which was over $100. I found an offer on Groupon for $60 for two people at the time, which is now at $68 for two people. There are a few taxes upon arrival and there is $3 for gloves if you do not have your own. $3 all you can drink water which I highly recommend you grabbing, you do tend to get a little parched when you're high in the air, swinging and pulling to your next stop. 

Upon arrival you sign a consent form because they do not want to be blamed for any cuts or bruises your ass may get of course. (I left with a warrior scar myself, no biggie) I went bright and early because I figured if it isn't the sun it is the bloody rain that tries to stomp on your fun parade in Florida. so I was there by 8:30 Am you must arrive at least 30 minutes prior to your appointment. Next you go meet your instructor and get suited up, I wore a regular black tee and some semi loose long sweat pants with my hair pulled all back. Ladies try to stay away from short shorts and men unless you want your genitals extremely exposed loose sweats or jeans are the go to for this field trip. For all my long hair rockers, pony tail for the day will be the way to survive. No gum chewing (don't know why they say this) and you can take your phone on the obstacle course, they will provide you with a little pouch to link up to your suit.

Following the set up, your instructor will take you to a small practice course where first you practice how to properly use your carabiners prior to climbing up, it is literally impossible for you to fall from anywhere here. It's so safe even a cave man can leave in one piece. Once you get the hang of opening one, sliding the other and so forth you then follow up a small ladder to do a little practice course. Once you do about two straight across and a small zip line, you then hit your first course. There are a total of 7 courses, 2 children courses ages 7-11, 4 adult courses 12+ and the giant Zip line one at the end. 

I am pretty out of shape, not a total lard ass, but I am very far from being a Serena Williams out here. But even with how nonexistent my workout plan is, this course was doable and fun. The further and higher you get though it does tend to get more difficult. I am far from a quitter so even when it seemed to get a little hard, or I had to hold up my weight I kept it pushing and appreciated the support I had with me. At the end of each course there is a zip line to get you to the end of the course. Once you finish all 4 courses you head up some tall stairs and to the long zip line where you basically celebrate your completion of your full obstacle course.  I would suggest to go with funny, supportive and adventurous friends here.

Now this is for my people a little scared of heights, my friend that I went with is absolutely terrified of heights, to where he barely even spoke to me as he was going across each obstacle course. Motivate each other and do not allow any fear to stand in the way. He even said himself he did not know he was capable of doing something that wild and that high in his life. All is possible when you are having fun and have a great support system. 

Hope you all enjoyed my Tree Trek adventure and I hope you all will make it out to this awesome place to experience it hands on. This is a perfect place for families, friends, even a day date to enjoy an out of the box outing. And for those that do not live here something similar to it in your city may be closer than you think. Be on the lookout next Sunday for my next fun and affordable adventure. I just received a new camera Nikon D3300, so I hope to give you all some visual quality along with my writing soon. Love you all for the support and hope to keep you all in here and following me. Remember to always "Love and allow to be loved." xoxo

Contact Information:
(407) 390-9999

Park Address:
7625 Sinclair Rd.
Kissimmee, Florida 34747

http://www.orlandotreetrek.com/

Welcoming Introduction

Hello to all (throws cyber confetti) my name is Wendolyn Marte. My last name literally means Mars in Spanish for anyone wondering. Also when it comes to my quote "Love and allow to be loved" I mean this not only for humans, but for the universe, your job, your goals etc. You must love your surroundings and what it is that you want to achieve and allow it to love you back in order to prevail, when you give you will receive only when done from a good place in your heart. I want to welcome you all into my website also known as my cyber child. I am 23 years old, I have been raised in Orlando, Fl for 16 years. I only have one sibling a 16 year old sister, both of our parents are from Dominican Republic. I am fluent in Spanish and always willing to learn a few different words from other languages. I have been in and out of college since 2010; my initial career choice was to be a Neonatal Nurse. I came to the realization that even though I adore children and enjoy to help others, the medical field just wasn't my calling. So I had to put my thinking cap on and remember what my real passion was. I have always enjoyed writing, being around people, and traveling. I found that the Communications field has a broad selection of career choices to pick from. So I went to my college and switched my whole major around, and I have never felt more excited and confident to achieve something as I am about this career. I am currently taking a couple of classes to get my feet wet again, and allow myself to also have a job to pay for my outings along with my bills. Another reason I chose to switch my major around was because I do not want to be in college for X amount of years, be at a job for 3-5 years and want to call it quits or just be unhappy with it overall. I want a career that is always demanding my attention, allowing me to better myself and to move up with my dreams all while having a genuine smile on my face and meeting new people every chance I get. This blog is to help me, help you and also to allow me to grow as a blogger. I will be posting random things in my personal life once in a while to keep you all updated on things around me and to assist anyone with how to overcome some downfalls we tend to have at times. I will mostly be posting on fun tips with adventure, travel, date ideas, and ways to just have fun and relax while at the same time not murdering your pockets with an ax. I hope that this helps some of you know that it is okay at times to fall on your ass, as long as you find a way to get up and get better that is ALL that matters. We all make mistakes and sometimes we don't use our time too efficiently, brush it off and put your life in full force, that is the only thing that should be of real importance. I hope you all will tune in every week to see what fun things I am doing and that I am able to get you all out of your homes and out to an adventure even if it is just once a month. I want to give you all variety and consistency. All feedback is welcomed and appreciated, feel free to contact me, check in my contacts tab to see the easiest way for you all to reach me. Thank you so much for beginning this journey with me, you all are my beautiful audience and I hope to have a special relationship with you all. XoXo